Days Of Our Lives

Ever since I wrote about “what makes a mother worth to be called a mother” some of my friends start nagging me to wrote about father.

I said to them that, “I honestly know nothing about fatherly things”.

But they said ( surprisingly in unisound):

“But U has a father, right? Sure U know some of it”

“capee…deh” :p

So I tried to write about it, if any one of U feel unsatisfied with it, feel free to correct it ^_^

Ok, what makes a father worth to be called a father?

I honestly don’t know what the answer are

Things that I know are what makes a father worthless to be called a father, so what I wrote it down now , are some of things that I learned, saw and heard from people around me about it;

1. Father who always being busy, always said that I work this hard for my child sake. and when something bad (accident, drugs, kidnaps, involve in criminal things or rape) happening to the child, blame it all to the mom:” I’m the breadwinner, so can’t U just keep an aye on them?”. Well I got news for this kind of father: “a mother is a human too, so is U. blaming won’t solve the problem, U have to ask them: what’s wrong? Why U did this? , What can we do (together) about it?“   

2. Father who ignore the child. They mix love with oblige and pride. They think what they give ( money, education and all the material things) is love. I don’t think so, I’m sorry for saying this: but that are what U oblige too, its not love, it just pride (U’ll feel less macho when U don’t have a child, but when U do have, U just use them as trophy). U mixes these things up together.      
3. Father who irresponsible, n’ always hurt the mom. Child tends to close to their mom, so when she’s hurt, so is the child. When the mother cry or being weak, so is the child. ( I read some medical journal that told, child tend to get sick whenever their parent had a fight). maybe… the problems are in both, but don’t drag the child in that, they still so fragile, it is possible that they would grow up with certain phobia or trauma.

4. Father (n’ a mother too) who think n’ (even) said to their child : I ‘m the one who give U life, so I have power to control it, even to take it back one day. “Halloo….so what God does, then??”

5. And other kind of father that there’re no words that can describe how cruel they are;  father who rape, hit, despise, use,abuse, torture, sell and kill his child ( of course there also a mother who did it all too)

A child can’t choose their parent,

Maybe that part of destiny…….

* I pray we all can be a great parent, I know it hard, but since I had wrote it down, so maybe I’l lremember whats I can’t do….