Days Of Our Lives

Ever since I wrote about “what makes a mother worth to be called a mother” some of my friends start nagging me to wrote about father.

I said to them that, “I honestly know nothing about fatherly things”.

But they said ( surprisingly in unisound):

“But U has a father, right? Sure U know some of it”

“capee…deh” :p

So I tried to write about it, if any one of U feel unsatisfied with it, feel free to correct it ^_^

Ok, what makes a father worth to be called a father?

I honestly don’t know what the answer are

Things that I know are what makes a father worthless to be called a father, so what I wrote it down now , are some of things that I learned, saw and heard from people around me about it;

1. Father who always being busy, always said that I work this hard for my child sake. and when something bad (accident, drugs, kidnaps, involve in criminal things or rape) happening to the child, blame it all to the mom:” I’m the breadwinner, so can’t U just keep an aye on them?”. Well I got news for this kind of father: “a mother is a human too, so is U. blaming won’t solve the problem, U have to ask them: what’s wrong? Why U did this? , What can we do (together) about it?“   

2. Father who ignore the child. They mix love with oblige and pride. They think what they give ( money, education and all the material things) is love. I don’t think so, I’m sorry for saying this: but that are what U oblige too, its not love, it just pride (U’ll feel less macho when U don’t have a child, but when U do have, U just use them as trophy). U mixes these things up together.      
3. Father who irresponsible, n’ always hurt the mom. Child tends to close to their mom, so when she’s hurt, so is the child. When the mother cry or being weak, so is the child. ( I read some medical journal that told, child tend to get sick whenever their parent had a fight). maybe… the problems are in both, but don’t drag the child in that, they still so fragile, it is possible that they would grow up with certain phobia or trauma.

4. Father (n’ a mother too) who think n’ (even) said to their child : I ‘m the one who give U life, so I have power to control it, even to take it back one day. “Halloo….so what God does, then??”

5. And other kind of father that there’re no words that can describe how cruel they are;  father who rape, hit, despise, use,abuse, torture, sell and kill his child ( of course there also a mother who did it all too)

A child can’t choose their parent,

Maybe that part of destiny…….

* I pray we all can be a great parent, I know it hard, but since I had wrote it down, so maybe I’l lremember whats I can’t do….

Sekali ini R akan ngebahs dua pilm ini secara pararel karna keduanya punya tema yg sama…..

Unutk orang2 yg pernah berpikir “ gimana klo waktu itu saya…..”

R anjurin untuk coba nonton film ini….(mungkin bisa dapet sesuatu)

Tema film ini adalah takdir

bisakah kita ngerubah takdir, dan kalopun bisa, trus apa ada konsekuensinya??

Pertama, R bahasa Buterfly efect dulu:

inti film ini nyeritain tentang Mas Ashton yg punya kemampuan melintasi waktu. so dia berusaha merubah takdir. berkali-kali dia coba, selalu ajah ada konsekuensi dari tindakannya. bahkan ketika dia udah mengorbankan diri( cacat), tetep ajah orang yg sayang (dan disayanginya) kena imbasnya. akhirnya dia mutusin untuk gak ada, mati sejak dalam kandungan….

Beberpa orang (yg ud nonton) berpendapat Dia pengecut, tapi justru itu bukti kecintaanya… meskipun orang2 gak ada yg sadar klo dia pernah ada…tapi dia tau orang2 yg disayangnya akan hidup dgn lebih baik tanpa dia.

pengecut adalah klo gak pernah nyoba, tapi dia udah nyoba n selalu ada ajah yg salah…(mgkin lebih baik klo dia gak punya kemampuan itu sama sekali )

Dejavu :

Cerita seorang agen ATF yg mencoba mencegah kapal feri yg sudah meledak,utk meledak ( hi hi hi, bingung ya bacanya ?). intinya sih dia bosen dgn kerjaanya yg nangkep pelaku setelah terjadi peristiwa, sekali2 dia pengen menangkap pelaku, sebelum kejahatn itu terjadi. so pake time machine dia ngelintasin waktu.

pertengahan pilm, pas dia udah ngelintasin waktu. tetep ajah kayaknya gak ada yg berubah. justru ngejelasin bukti2 aneh yg ada di TKP…

Tapi yg jelas berakhir dgn happy ending (terlalu  malahan :p).

Kritik buat film ini;

terlalu fairy tale dan (personally) endingya terlalu dipaksain. Tapi jgn kuartir, tetep pilm bagus kok( ya idenya, ya efectnya, ya kejutan2nya), n gak rugi lah liat Bang Danzel yg tumben2-an murah senyum tapi tetep keren

Untuk resensi lebih lengkapnya, bisa nanya ke Ayu ato Yogo ( kita nonton bareng,hari itu kita senasib sepenanggungan :p)

Tapi satuhal yg ngebedain kedua film ini adalah;

klo di buterfly yg ngelintasi waktu adalah badan halus (mungkin soul gitu) n diliatin semakin banyak dia ”ngeloncat” otaknya semakin rusak, overload, karna otaknya jadi musti nampung memori beberapa orang dari kecil ampe gede.(dia selalu ngeloncatnya  ke masa kecil gt)

sedangkan klo Dejavu, yg melintasi waktu badan kasar (pake konsep lengkungan waktu n “nyebrang” lewat  worm hole)

hmm… sedangkan worm hole sendiri, diduga bentuknya seperti saringan..

bisa masuk,tapi pas  keluar, jadinya kornet…

dan belon ada yg bisa menjelaskan molekul soul. (soul sendiri dimana ajah masih membingungkan).tapi Bang Danzel bisa melintas dgn ”cuma” menderita shock/trauma jantung doang…no scratch at  all ….

So klo ditanya mana yg lebih mungkin, R pikir melintasi waktu dgn badan halus lebih mungkin…..

Film yg lumayana rame, n bikin R mikir;

Can we choose destiny??

I think its choose us….

(walohualam ^_^)

* R gak bahas butterfly effect 2, belon selesai nonton, nungguin patner nonton sejati pulang nih :p

Once upon a time, live a young and beautiful girl, her outside is match with her inside. Then one day she meet this young handsome guy. They fall in love, and like other fairy tale, they get married and planning to live happily ever after on their own “castle”.

But ‘cause its not a tale, so the story still continues to tell.

What is so different about them?

Why am I wrote about them?

To answer those questions, I will continue the tale:

Before the honeymoon even ended, they already had a fight, at first it’s a perfectly normal fight, but then it was beyond normal when the husband started to used strength to her wife, on and on.

Every time he sober (or maybe just too tired to punch) he’ll said

“I’m sorry; I never meant to hurt U, I Love U”

She buys it, n’ every time she would just say to herself:

“He will change tomorrow”

“I know he love me, he just can’t control himself”

So the pattern just keeps going on and on……..

The husband never tries to stop and the wife never realizes the limits. They just live for tomorrow (but hey….tomorrow never comes, right?! its must start from today!! )

Until that day, when he “accidentally” push her over the stairs. She ended up in a hospital, but they still tried to cover it from their parent and friends, and they all belived it ( apalagi R yg emg “hobinya” jatuh ^_^).

One day on the very quite afternoon, I come to visited, saw her rainbow-like face and said (as a joke):

“ wah korban kekerasan dalam rumah tanga nih”

She replied nothing, than………. she cried, and just told me everything….

Me? I don’t know what to said;numb, speechless, mix emotion ( gak nyangka bgt deh)

Then she asked me this; “I’m so confused now, so what is love, how it felt?”

I replied :

“Hmmm…… I’m not an expert in love-things, but I believe that love is not about something that we say, it’s about something that we do. And love come with respect”

“The things that U should ask to Ur self now are, does his act indicated that he loves U? Did he respected U?”

She just cried, I don’t know what else to said then, just hug her….

The rest of the story is too private (and still rolling), let just pray for the best…(amiiin)

The things that I need to emphasize from this, is that always being curios, and don’t let the words “I love U” makes U can’t think clearly. We planning 2 get marry just for once, so choose wisely.

And for the family and the friends also be curius, start to pay attention to those silently scream, beter being noisy than latter be sory….(tapi mesti pinter2 juga sih ^_^)

True love is like a ghost;

Every one speaks about it, but it’s very rare to meet

I hope we all lucky enough to have it (The True love I mean, not the ghost of course :P)

kemaren pada hari yg sama R ketemu n ditelpon oleh 3 sahabat dari masa yg berbeda. setelah ngobrol/melakukan hal2 yg urgent,entah kenapa semuanya sampai pada obrolan hobi. dan meskipun ketiganya gak kenal,n percakapan dilakukan pada waktu yg berbeda, semuanya sepakat hobi R tuh jatuh!

Pas S2,
kira2 setahun yg lalu, jatuh pas nyebrangin parit kecil dikampus,n hasilnya dagu R memar pelangi parah, n yg paling kasian sih beberapa temen (apalagi yg co) klo naek angkot bareng, orang2 kayaknya berpikir R tuh korban kekerasan pada rumah tangga (mngkin gara2 ud jrng bgt, ce umur segini masih jatuh ),jadi pada ngeliatin dgn muka gak suka gitu :p. untung bgt sembuh pas hari lebaran, jadi R bisa lebaran dgn “wajah baru” ^_^

Pas S1,
paling fenomenal n selalu bikin R ama Diana ketawa sendiri (ampe sekarang tuh) jadi seperti biasa kita pulang bareng n turun di depan rektorat, hari itu giliran Diana yg ngasihin duit, so dia turun duluan, pas R turun,GEDEBUK R lgsung jatuh dgn posisi nagkep kodok ^_^ Diana yg udah selesai bayar celingak-celinguk nyariin R, R gak masih mencoba mengakap kodok imajiner tadi n shock “kok tuh kodok bisa kabur” so diem ajah. Diana terus celingak cilinguk, n dalem hati mikir “si Rani kemana sih? tega bgt ninggalin” dan orang2 yg diangkot tuh pada nunjuk2 kebawah , baru Diana nyadar apa arti suara GEDEBUK tadi. waduh itu suer kejadian paling malu2in seumur idup, mana waktu itu Pasar Balubur belon pindah, itu mah, yg diangkot, mang beca ampe yg naek motor sempet2nya noleh sambil ketawa. ……

R? bangun dgn PD n senyum juga dgn PD (mo apa lagi?? gak mungkin nangis ato marah-ngapain-liat2!!, kan?!)

To be continued….(masih ada 2 masa lagi :p)
got 2 go,^_^

Yesterday I talked to Ar** and told her to just take my place. She is much better than me, she’s much more cold and  fearless than me, and she is stronger and wiser than me. Me? I  can simply just disappear, maybe it is for the best….

But she said things that really melting my heart

“Don’t be silly, without U there would be no me

U said, I ‘m strong?

The truth is I’m strong because of U”

If U go beck to those memories, U realize, that I’m not always “there”.

But U are!!!

U who always know instinctively what better said and better forgotten ,U who always believing in God, find some humor in life even in the most ironic ways…..

And I’m no fun at all but U ton of fun….

Me? I am simply just a cheerleader for U

I only have words, sometime yeah… my word is true, but it’s not always, right?

and the truth is, everything that I know, U already know ( but sometime U just too stubborn to realize it -she smiled)

But without U, I would know nothing!!

So brace Ur self! Pull Ur self together!

And stop being silly, together we are strong”

That is really are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard…..T_T

I mean, yeah some people said those to me with their act or I can simply just see   it in their ayes (mskpn mungkin R cuma keGR-an ^_^), But no one over said those exact words…….

and yeah..thats right, together we are strong…..

(Like I said, she always has a ways with word :p)

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,
You fell so hard
I’ve learned the hard way
To never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it’s not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because you know that’s weakness in your eyes
I’m forced to fake
A smile, a laugh everyday of my life
My heart can’t possibly break
When it wasn’t even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I heard you cry every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
And now I cry in the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I try my hardest just to forget everything
Because of you
I don’t know how to let anyone else in
Because of you
I’m ashamed of my life because it’s empty
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of you
Because of you

But I know better than anyone that U’re hurt too………

    When I wake up this morning

    Not feeling refreshed nor relaxed

    Just sick and tired instead

    Itchy, I can’t stop blinking

Tottering to the bath room

The splash of water hit me like a boom

When I saw a mirror

A face looked back at me in a horror

  Dimly, a reflection emerge from thin fog

  The princess is turn into a frog!!!

  The resemblance unwittingly so alike

  It surprisingly brighten the day, so I smile

Should I find some prince charming?

Or should I just take some pill?

Even the first choice is more tempting

But both logic n heart knows the real deal……

Memo 2 myself :

Never (again) to sleep while still crying

Never eat some food that I might allergic to

When I stubbornly combine the two

Surprise! There’s a frog come visiting ^_^

*Me and my twisted ways to brighten up some grim days

a little bit hyperboli,humor and smile…

that will do ^_^

This cartoon movie told about a friendship between a night wolf and a sheep

On one stormy night a sheep (Mei) and a night wolf (Gav) share a shelter, the companions cant see nor smell each other, but there’s nothing can keep them to talking. Then they found out that they so alike. The strangers become friends and they promise to have lunch together tomorow, and  using the password stormy night to recognizing

I am sure U can guess what kind of funny surprise that await them in the next day J JJ

Despite the odds, Gav and Mei really do like each other. Gentle Gav and Innocent Mei become a regular twosome, meeting 4 a long walks as their wonderful secret friendship deepens and grow.

But soon the secret become public secret, pressuring the sworn friends to spy   on each other’s kind and to betraying  the friendship……..

Really a great fabel

We as human tend to judge from appearance, live with certain prejudice….

Afraid of the differences but at the same time try to being special, being different……

But the trut is, deep inside us, we realize that  we are not so different at all

And we need each other to hold, to grow and  to live……

how odd this can be??

This movie have a soul of this certain movie : brother bear, Ice age, Titanic ( U jump,I jump), Romeo n Juliet (??? :p) and a  a little bit “Rosalinda” ( ada acara ilang ingatan segala tea ^_^)

Sangat disarankan untuk yg masih(/udah) punya adik kecil, biar generasi yg akan datang tumbuh tanpa syak wasangka SARA

Lets make this world a better place…..

^_^

I know it

U know it

And I know that U know

But I doubt U know that I know

Moreover to know that I know that U know

Or to know what I need to know in order to know that U know

        Dizzy?? ^_^

        That’s why it called public secret

        Can’t be told

        Even if I want to….. :p

“ Mbak, bisa minta duit buat beli nasi gak?” ucap seorang pemuda ke R

Dan R yg dgn pandangan curiga,langsung bilang

“wah saya juga cuma ada buat ongkos…”

Baru berapa langkah R jalan, R udah ngerasa nyesel bgt.

”kok R pelit bgt sih? Cuma minta buat nasi gitu loh!! biarpun dia terlihat sehat dan kuat, tapi kan siapa yg tau…” >_<

Hhh……..Bener2 feel guilty….

Trus kenapa R curiga?

Alasan pertama….

Karena R pernah hampir 4X ditipu oleh orang yg sama…..

• Pertamanya…yah R kasih lah,da dikira beneran….

• Kedua….R kasih juga, tapi lebih sedikit n’ mikir :” kok berasa de javu yaa….”
• ketiga…kena lagi dan masih mikir de javu >_<
• Keempat…karna waktunya agak deketan, R inget bgt ama ni orang n R tolak langsung…. (kalo ampe kena lg, dapet member card tuh ^_^)

Tapi meskpn gitu, tetep ajah R gak adil…..

Cuma gara2 pernah ketipu, bukan berarti R dibenarkan unutk berkelakuan gitu, toh ini orang yg berbeda, dan (sekali lagi) meskipun dia terlihat sehat n kuat, tapi kan R gak pasti juga……

Alasan kedua

R ngeliat bahwa ni orang sehat, muda dan kuat…..

R lebih ngehargain dan R Insya Allah (n’biasanya) selalu ngasih kok klo ke pengamen mah. Meskipun misalnya cuma ”kekeprokan doang dgn suara yg bener2 buta nada tea”. Meskipun keliatan gak niat, minimal dia ada usaha lah….

Tapi tetep ajah, sekali lagi R udah berlaku gak adil, toh siapa tau dia kedesek bgt. Perantau gitu, baru nginjek bdg n kehabisan bekal dijalan (musafir lah)

Hh………………..

And the guilt just keep adding up….>_<

Apalagi waktu cerita ke Mami:

“harusnya tadi kasih ajah lah,

kan

kasian..cuma minta buat nasi kok”

LLLLLL

Tapi Mami juga yg mengucapkan kata yg agak2 ngeringanin perasaan R

”Emg tadi bener, cuma punya duit buat ongkos?”

”hmm……., emg cuma punya ratusan,yg recehan ama satu yg kertas”

“ ya udah….emg lg gak ada kan?!”

” iyah juga yaa….” J

Phew…ternyata masih panjang bgt, jalan R untk menjadi R yg lebih baik…..

Hh…..untung jg R masih dikasih rasa nyesel,

Alhamdulillah n Astagfirullah………..